LISTEN, I'M NOT RACIST!!!!!

And I surely don't discriminate. Anyone is of course welcome to join this group... It's just that sometimes there are just questions that pop up and i'm not quite sure who to ask. 
I can say without a doubt that i'm super thankful that I've got a son. It took me 30 years to figure out how to do my hair, if I had a mixed daughter who needed her hair done... she and I both would have been in trouble. Luckily, I have a super handsome caremel linebacker of a son who just gets a fade every few weeks, that I can almost handle.
I'm starting this group cause I need advice on things that I couldn't possibly know!
like my son says that it hurts to cut his hair... Is he whiny? or could he be telling the truth?
I got into a screaming match recently with a friend of mine... my son was crying that his haircut was hurting.. but my friend just seemed to be stretching it out. like almost felt like he was only cutting like 2% of the time.. which means, all he was doing was getting the clippers hot and burning my son.... (yes, i'm a bit overprotective)
So when I said something to him, all he could say was.... "but he's black" as if that meant that it had to be a long and drawn out situation.

I  have no Idea! And his dad is of course A black man... but he isn't around! if he is its only for a few days and then he's gone again...
I'd like to think that its the aspbergers and not a lack of give a fuck for my son. I mean.... he is absolutely amazing! But I hate to say it but (maybe luckily) I think my son may be dealing with a certain amount of  Aspbergers Syndrome as well which just means that he doesn't register to him as hurtful that his dad ghosts him for months at a time....
Anyway, i'm rambling.... but... All of that... all of the above is why I started this page. 
And as I said... anyone who might be willing to share some input or  be a sounding board when i'm unsure about something is welcome to join this group. but if nobody joins, i'll understand that too... but One can hope. 
And if you read all the way through to this..... bless your heart and i'm sorry for rambling. i'm sure that i'll condense it down and reword  it better at another time. Till then, it is what it is.